Sexual Communication
How do you let your partner know (or perhaps how do they let you know) they’re hitting “the right spot”?
In my case, I can tell on a guy from the way his groans change and I think the same applies when he’s doing the same for me, my moans get shaky or I start gasping and that’s when you know we’re close.
I know a friend of mine bites her boyfriend (I can only assume nicely) when he’s hitting her spot. What’s your situation?
December 28th, 2008 at 1:01 pm
Its a fine line between telling them what you want and them feeling bad about not doing it right.
Try a bit of everything and then pick up what they liked and discard what they didn’t – you can tell from body language what they did/didnt like.
December 28th, 2008 at 4:33 pm
The moans mean I’m getting it right, and after almost 6 years, I know what works! So does he, a mixture of moans, toe-clenching and apparently a slightly fearful look!
December 29th, 2008 at 7:59 pm
I used to date a girl who was noisy as hell…I (along with the neighbours) kind of knew where she was along the way toward the big O by her screams and the amount of swearing or gutteral noises in them.
My ex was the complete opposite – as quiet as a mouse, but she’d start sucking her breath in loudly through gritted teeth then grab my butt and dig her nails into my buttcheeks and start trembling just before an orgasm then when we had ignition she’d suddenly get so tight she’d literally squeeze me out.
Apparently my own groans are fairly easy to read.
December 29th, 2008 at 8:48 pm
i prefer to follow the body movements of the girl i am involved with. I like to take charge , and not ask too many questions. Having said that ,a well placed “faster” or “harder” from the girl involved also helps
January 2nd, 2009 at 8:50 pm
I claw.
Him, the sheets. Anything I can get my nails into.